We do necessary education and training in the field we take up as a profession before entering the practical life. Whenever a job advertisement comes up, education and experience for certain posts are mandatory. And if you don't have those desired qualities, they apologize to you as much as you can
But on the other hand, a person who has to spend his whole life with another person and in our Pakistan, especially, a person's second wife remains dependent all his life, we do not give him any training for this important point of life. After a job and after some time marriage he is not mentally prepared for this important occasion of his life and then his decisions in his married life are dictated by his friends' experiences by his parents. Usually in Pakistan, after studying first and then learning to be a virgin, she gets married and the problems of her family life are followed by the advice of her mother and sisters and she is given only one lesson in a hurry to leave this house. Now your funeral will come out and often their funeral comes out ahead of time
The suggestion is that when two inexperienced people are suddenly burdened with each other, they may make mistakes, perhaps with you or if they marry for self-love, they may misunderstand the other party. If you feel that there are certain habits in them that are irreparable and harmful to each other, then the requirement of wisdom is to get rid of these stereotypical thoughts from the relationship that is becoming your poison. Get rid of the fact that the funeral will take place in the house where the funeral was held. Forced relationships are only destructive and give your children the confidence that you are with them and the decisions they make in all kinds of situations in life.
Finally, it is important to try to give your children the necessary training before marriage, including a sense of responsibility, forgiveness, patience, limiting your marital affairs to yourself, respecting others and their positions, tolerance and mutual decisions. Do it willingly. If you feel that your child has any mental or physical disorder which is dangerous for his married life, please do not destroy the life of others in the love of your child. And if they decide to separate for some reason, then by listening to their position and comforting them, if they feel wrong, then explain them. support the decision.
Noman Sultan
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